I am trying to change the world.

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(Source: collegeproblems)

true this

subtlecluster:

aramen:

fashionistazapatista:

sotamnificent:

Until I was 30, I dated only boys. I’ll tell you why: Men scared the sh*t out of me. Men know what they want. Men own alarm clocks. Men sleep on a mattress that isn’t on the floor. Men buy new shampoo instead of adding water to a nearly empty bottle of shampoo. Men make reservations. Men go in for a kiss without giving you some long preamble about how they’re thinking of kissing you. Men wear clothes that have never been worn by anyone else before.

OK, maybe men aren’t exactly like this. But this is what I’ve cobbled together from the handful of men I know or know of, ranging from Heathcliff Huxtable to Theodore Roosevelt to my dad. The point: Men know what they want, and that is scary.

What I was used to was boys.

Boys are adorable. Boys trail off their sentences in an appealing way. Boys get haircuts from their roommate, who “totally knows how to cut hair.” Boys can pack up their whole life and move to Brooklyn for a gig if they need to. Boys have “gigs.” Boys are broke. And when they do have money, they spend it on a trip to Colorado to see a music festival. Boys can talk for hours with you in a diner at three in the morning because they don’t have regular work hours. But they suck to date when you turn 30.

Mindy Kaling on Why You Need A Man, Not A Boy | Glamour Magazine

I’m so glad I’m dating a man.

Okay, I see where this is coming from, but there are parts of it that REALLY bother me. It’s making the definition of a man incompatible with folks in the lower classes. Sometimes you DO need to add water to that bottle of shampoo, not out of laziness, but because you can’t afford a new one right now. Not everyone can afford a bed-frame, so they just have a mattress, which might also be a hand-me-down. And speaking of pre-owned stuff, not all men can wear clothes that haven’t been worn by anyone else before.

And I get that she says “maybe men aren’t exactly like this” at the end, but she says that’s what she’s “cobbled together from the handful of men” she knows or knows of. Which is the problem. Under this definition, upper class and middle class males can afford to be Men, but the rest are left behind.

Finally, she says “boys are broke” and that they don’t work “regular hours.” *facepalm* I can’t even…especially in this economy, TONS of people are broke and this doesn’t  necessarily speak to their work ethic—it speaks to their circumstances and whole context. Not everyone can work a 9-5. I’m also thinking of all my experience with immigrants, how SO many of them are on second and third shift jobs, and this just…pisses me off.

I understand what she’s saying, but I think she could say it in a better way that really addresses the matter to which she’s trying to speak.

If her point is “men know what they want and boys don’t,” that’s not only a pretty simplistic axis of judgment for what makes someone a man, but it also erases the fact that many men are at a point in their lives where they might not know what they want. That doesn’t magically turn you into a boy. Whatever. Can’t she just say “I used to date people who didn’t know what they wanted and that was scary, but it sucks to date people who are aimless and/or confused by 30, so now I date people who know what they want”?

is it just me or boys describe ‘musicians’?

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supporthumanity:

flapjackstate:

stfuconservatives:

This reminds me of a poster sign I’ve seen before: “Make all politicians work for minimum wage and watch how fast things change.”

I remember that poster too ^ very powerful.

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pantslessprogressive:

Worthy Twitter hashtag of the day: #feministwishlist

it’s quite funny how the world is, it may sumtyms be a tragedy but really its more like 80% amazing and the rest is lost. :)